“There are activities and summer camps galore to fill children’s time and supply much needed childcare when kids are out of school. But psychologists and child development experts suggest that over-scheduling children during the summer is unnecessary and could ultimately keep kids from discovering what truly interests them.”
Dr. Corinne Masur
This post is not pro-porn.
It is also not anti-porn.
It’s about porn and your kids.
In an earlier post we talked about the likelihood that if you have a child who’s computer literate, he or she has probably either stumbled across porn online or watched it purposefully.
A recent study found that 80% of American teenagers aged 14 – 18 have watched porn. Little is known about how many younger children have watched, but as was mentioned last time, many 8-, 9-, and 10-year-olds have also been curious enough to find some porn on the internet.
This leads to the unfortunate reality that we parents should talk to our children about porn. And one of the first questions we need to ask ourselves is, what message is porn sending our children? Of course this is part of a much larger question about what messages our children are receiving from media in general. But we’ll leave that question for another post.
What messages do our children get from porn about what a healthy body looks like?
What messages do our children get from porn about what sex is?
What messages do our children get from porn about what relationships are like?
And then we must ask ourselves, what messages would we like them to receive? It’s our job to start providing those messages in ways that they can hear.
In partnership with the New York Life Foundation, First Book has curated a list of books to help children “build resiliency, offer comfort and validation, introduce coping techniques, and help guide conversations about grief and loss.”
These books can’t be bought from First Book unless you’re employed by a non-profit that serves an economically disadvantaged population, but they can be purchased at all the usual places (Amazon, Barnes and Noble, etc.):
Julie Nemeth, Ph.D., is a mother and therapist who lives in Philadelphia with her husband and two sons. As a licensed psychologist, she maintains a private practice in Center City, specializing in fertility issues, pregnancy, and parenting, as well as healing from eating concerns and childhood trauma.
Parenting beyond the ABCs
Although much of the material on Growth Mindset and the Power of Yet (see my previous two posts) focus on children’s academic development, these concepts also inform children’s social and emotional development! To address this, Carlye Nelson-Major, the person who first introduced me to these concepts, and I discussed, at length, three aspects of emotional intelligence, including:
* tolerating anxiety
* acquiring empathy
* exercising forgiveness Continue reading