Julie Nemeth, Ph.D., is a mother and therapist who lives in Philadelphia with her husband and two sons. As a licensed psychologist, she maintains a private practice in Center City, specializing in fertility issues, pregnancy, and parenting, as well as healing from eating concerns and childhood trauma.
A few days ago I overheard my two boys playing with a balloon in the next room. My younger son’s voice began to quiver from tears as he explained that he couldn’t hit the balloon high in the air. My older son quickly responded, “not yet.” As I heard this, my heart filled with joy! My older son understood that a little word like “yet” gave his brother hope that someday, with practice and persistence, he would hit the balloon higher.
I spoke about the power of yet in my last entry (https://thoughtfulparenting.org/2018/10/15/reflections-of-starting-school-again/)
In that blog post, I noted that by simply adding the word “yet” we could tell our kids we believe in them. The Power of Yet was introduced and developed by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D. in her groundbreaking book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.
To bring the Power of Yet into our lives as parents it is essential to develop a nuanced understanding of a Growth Mindset. Continue reading
Dr. Corinne Masur
It used to be that friends and family exchanged stories about their children at get togethers. The children under discussion were often there and could say “Oh, Mom!” or “Oh, Dad!” and everyone would laugh. And, after the party, the child could yell at the mother or discuss with the father how they felt about the story that was shared.
Now stories about children, information about children, and images of children are shared by parents all the time– and without the child’s awareness, It’s done online and for various reasons. Sometimes the child looks adorable or has accomplished something, sometimes the parents want to share information about their child’s ongoing development, sometimes the parent is looking for support because some aspect of their parenting is difficult. And sometimes parents share in order to meet their own needs for gratification– to see how many likes they can get, how much support they can get for themselves, etc. And regardless of parental motivation, the today’s audience includes not only friends and family, but often strangers with varying agendas of their own.
Is it time to rethink our sharing of information about our children and images of them?
Dr. Corinne Masur
A few weeks ago a mother came in wondering if her daughter’s complaints in the night were real. Her daughter had had a virus but was now largely over it. And yet she kept waking up and complaining that she was scared. Was this a manipulation designed to get mom to sleep in her room again as she had when she had been so sick? Or was something else going on?
The little girl, who was 4, had clung to her mother and said she was scared over and over. Finally and with a great deal of questioning, the little girl told her mom that she felt as if she couldn’t breathe.
Again, the mother wondered: Is this real? Or does she just want me to stay in her room?
Hello readers! We have a new Q&A posted to the Ask Dr. Fran section that focuses on how much we should involve children in our grief. Check it out and let us know what you think.