Yelling at our Kids

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Dr. Corinne Masur

Do you feel guilty when you yell at your children?

The other day, a dad in our parenting group spoke about feeling guilty for having yelled at his 6-year-old son.  His 3-year-old needed him, and while he was dealing with his younger child, his 6-year-old asked him to do something for him.  The dad said he was busy, and then the older child asked again.  The dad yelled at him to go to his room and then immediately felt that he had done the wrong thing.  He remembered his own father yelling all the time, and worried that he was becoming like his father.

So – did this dad do something wrong?  Is it wrong to yell at your child? Continue reading

NYT Article on Temperament

Grandmothers and mothers with more than one child have always known that babies come into the world with their own personalities. But first time parents often suffer, wondering if it’s their fault that their baby cries easily, or seems too sensitive, or is slow to walk, or…

See the recent New York Times article below for more on the importance of temperament in understanding your baby:

http://mobile.nytimes.com/blogs/well/2016/03/14/some-babies-are-just-easier-than-others/?referer=

 

 

Mindful Parenting

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Bidi McSorley, M.D. is a wonderful pediatrician and teacher of mindfulness for parents in the Philadelphia area. Dr. McSorley has been a pediatrician for 30 years, a meditator for over 10 years, and an instructor for the Penn Program for Mindfulness. She has kindly agreed to be our guest blogger this month!

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Mindfulness is the awareness that arises from paying attention in the present moment, on purpose and without judgments. It is being with whatever is (good or bad, desired or not wanted), and not pushing the experience away or holding onto it. It is having equanimity.

So, how does this apply to being a parent? Continue reading

Free Parenting Resources!

We are excited to announce that Parenting for Emotional Growth, a series of five books written by Dr. Henri Parens, is now available for free! In order to download the materials, go to http://jdc.jefferson.edu and search for “parenting for emotional growth.”

From the website’s description: “This textbook, on which the Parenting for Emotional Growth Curriculum, Workshops, and Lines of Development are based, is highly detailed and is based in psychodynamic theories that address parenting issues pertinent to optimizing the child’s psychological development, mental well-being, and abilities to adapt constructively. The presentation of materials is organized by the rationale that when parents know, understand, and can positively handle the child’s evolving emotional and experiential needs and psychological developments, the parents’ rearing strategies tend to better optimize their children’s developmental potential than when such knowledge, understanding, and handling are lacking. It is exactly because this educational approach has been shown to bring about growth-promoting parenting that our aim is the institution of parenting education alongside “reading, writing, and arithmetic” in the primary and secondary education of every child. In addition, through the Workshops, we want to reach those who have already become parents as well as those who work with children in order to heighten their growth-promoting efforts toward optimizing their children’s development.”

Henri Parens, M.D., is a local Philadelphia treasure and an internationally known child psychiatrist and psychoanalyst who has devoted his life to helping children and parents. His contributions to psychoanalytic theory include a large body of work on parenting and an expansion of the definition of aggression. He has written numerous books including an autobiography describing his own experience as a child escaping the Holocaust.